January 29, 2011

Hugh Grant ...move over, The Top Gear Guys are number one in my book

I'm a Top Gear addict.

The Mister introduced this show to me last year and of course I was unsure about this British car show. I'm unsure about any car shows......because I'm not a car person. I couldn't tell you the difference between a Ford from a Toyota.

From their ludicrous stunts, crass jokes, swagger and car challenges  there is no way anyone can say that this show or these men are boring!! 


What I've learned from adulthood

•Most things are complicated.
•Most people are complicated.
•Sooner or later, you have to learn to be assertive.
•You really only need a few good friends.
•Being right is less important and valuable than you ever thought it would be.
•Grownups get mad at kids for making messes, but nobody makes bigger messes than grownups.
•There are too many occasions where there is very little you can do to help.
•Just when you think you've got it all figured out, everything changes.
•Nothing is black and white.
•You will continue to be haunted by everything you swore you'd never do as a parent.
•People can change, but you can't change them.
•Sometimes life is absolutely terrifying.
•The most valuable skill you will ever develop is listening, followed closely by shutting up.
•You're going to feel ambivalent about a lot of things.
•You are the only one who's going to eat that last little bit of cereal in the box.
•Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader.
•Emotions are transient. Let them come and go.
•Worry is a robber.
•You are going to change a lot of toilet paper rolls, diapers, and trash can liners.
•Swearing, when saved for special occasions, can really make you feel better.
•It's completely, 100% okay and normal to doubt.
•It's virtually impossible to leave the house without spending at least $40.
•Gossip always gets you back.
•You really don't need all that stuff.
•Buying stuff really does seem to make you feel better sometimes.
•Even if you didn't lose the remote control, you're going to be the one to find it.
•Watching the news is only occasionally beneficial.
•Sometimes you don't know you're experiencing PMS until you feel the urge to throw things at people's heads.
•No good has ever come from the word "upgrade" especially as it relates to software.
•You will continually surprise yourself at your ability to waste time.
•There is freedom in accepting that life is uncertain and unfair.
•It's good to say no sometimes.
•You can act brave without feeling brave.
•Loving someone will reveal just as much about yourself as it will about them.
•Your metabolism is a jerk.
•You might as well say "I love you" every time you feel like it.
•No matter what you do, individual socks are going to randomly disappear.

Luck be our ladybug!

So it's been said that if a ladybug lands on you it's good luck. Well, how about if a ladybug lands on your coffee table in mid-winter?

Last night while we were watching t.v a ladybug flew onto our coffee table and today I went to the local liquor store and bought some lottery tickets.

Crossing my fingers........I'm hoping our little lady bug will be bringing us some good luck!!

January 27, 2011

Mommy and Daddy Dearest ------You Suck!!!

I knew as of last October that my parents chose to change their destination from California to Vegas. I was told by my father that they were trading in their tickets and going to Vegas to celebrate my mothers retirement.  Not completely stunned by their actions I did remind my father that they did promise their grand kids; my children that they would visit them this past summer…..which came ……and went.  With that he bypassed the subject and continued on with the conversation.
Today I received a call from my mom, hesitant to answer I picked up after the 5th ring and took a deep breath. She began to tell me that they had plan a “last minute” trip to Vegas next weekend and was wondering if we could come up. “Last minute?”….i believe not. I began to tell her that there would be no way that we could afford to take not only us but our four kids to Vegas next weekend. So I simply asked if they could take a day and drive down to us and visit their grandchildren which they haven’t seen in ….years. To that she stated that they weren’t driving to Vegas they were flying so they weren’t going to rent a car. She kept stating that this was a spontaneous trip which was beyond the truth and finally I told her that I knew that this wasn’t a spare of the moment, fly by the seat of their pants trip. One, they aren’t those type of people and 2. They are all about planning things out in advance.  I told her that I knew that they had planned this for awhile and again there would be no way for us to come out next weekend which also happens to be Super Bowl Weekend!!!!
Knowing that I just caught her in a lie, she started to stammer over her words and I just started to get highly annoyed ….no that’s wrong I was getting angry. I told her that I would have to go because I was still at work, all the while I was feeling that lump in my throat and I knew at any minute the tears would come. Tears of disappointment……tears that I held back for nearly a year. 

Sitting at my desk I felt the heat rise throughout my body and tears of anger rolled down. How dare she…how dare them!!! It’s only a 3 hour drive from Vegas to our house in California……it’s a longer trip from their place in Wisconsin to Illinois where my sister lives and from time to time they will visit their grandkids and take them back with them. They have gone out of their way to visit my oldest daughter who’s attending college in Kansas….now from what I can recall in geography class, Kansas and Wisconsin is more than a 3 hour drive. 

Why do they make the effort to see my sister and her family and refuse to see their oldest daughter and their grandkids?  Actually I could care less if they see me but they need to see their grandchildren, that’s what is important and what better way to celebrate the Superbowl and the win of our Packers then to have a BBQ with family. Obviously to them that doesn’t seem to be that important. 

Bottom line…..this is their choice. My only disappointment is that they are missing out in spending time with amazing grandkids, meeting my husband and having a nice time with family……but again from what my counselor has told me time and time again that I shouldn’t expect anything from them because it will only lead to disappointment. ……”They are not the parents your sister has” even though they ARE, they will never be.

January 24, 2011

To step on the scale or not.....is the BIG question

When we were planning to get married in May I was all about the gym. I wanted to look fabulous…well ok somewhat fabulous. At times I worked out twice a day, every day in the gym then I would workout at home. I got firm in places I haven’t been firm in years!! Well…since high school. I felt good…..i felt healthy.  Then……the wedding was canceled.  

The stress of the cancellation, repairing the relationship, our trips to the councilor to reconnect, money lost and unsure about the future……I gained weight. It wasn’t quick…..but the pounds came on and the trips to the gym became less frequent. I just didn’t care. 

Fast forward to a half a year later, we did get married……but I wasn’t that fabulous self that I wanted to be. My clothes are tighter and I see myself in pictures and I’m very disappointed. I got comfortable….I allowed myself not to care. I can't even find myself to approach the scale, i don't need to .....i feel it the tightness of my clothes and i see it when i look at myself in the mirror.

Well now it’s time to care and be an example. So tomorrow I’m heading to the gym with Karen to be her gym partner, she’s on the crunch to look her fabulous self on Valentines day when she becomes a Mrs. It’s time to feel the burn once again. It’s time to put down the pizza and grab a carrot !!

January 21, 2011

Birthday dinner gone bad

I’m a little annoyed with the mister.  We planned a special night to celebrate my birthday just him and I. It was basically going to be the highlight of my week…nice restaurant, wine, giggles, amazing food…what more could a girl ask for ..right??  fast forward to the end of the night, the check arrives and the mister isn’t pulling out his wallet. I ask if he’s going to pay and he looks at me and says “just use your card”, “use my card, why?” I asked. I heard some sort of who hah…. But all I was seeing is red……use my card?? For my birthday dinner?? Why didn’t he bring cash? This was my birthday dinner and I have to pay for it? What kind of crap is that. I handed my card……..when the slip came back to sign, I looked at him and said “you’re going to tip the guy aren’t you?”….. he looked at me and said “I don’t have any cash on me”…… this you know what didn’t bring anything with him….so I ended up paying for the whole thing…..tip and all!!! And then he complains that I didn’t tip him much. EXCUSE ME??   I looked at him and said “I’m paying for my own dinner why are you saying anything”. He advised me that I was messed up. I’m messed up??? Wasn’t this suppose to be my birthday dinner??? 

To top it off he was under the impression that there was going to be some dessert in the bedroom……………..hmmmmm, no I’m sorry this girl is done giving for the day. I had already paid the mortgage, 2 loans, the internet….bought the kids dinner…..MY dinner…TIPPED the waiter and he wants me to give it up….sorry but this gal/bank is CLOSED!!!......and broke. 

Friendship gone awry

My friendship with my good friend has been strained for a month or so. We didn’t have an argument, not that I can recall. We use to hang out all the time especially at work and on the weekends with our husbands. I was dumbfounded when invites were being declined and life changing events were being heard through the grape vine….when I use to be the head grape!!  It wasn’t until I confronted her the 2nd time regarding the obvious tension that I was told that she feels that we disconnected because of my friendship the girls that I work with and although she understands that I sit by them for 8 hours she feels that we have lost touch. Ok I’m sorry are we back in grade school???  I was a bit shocked by t his because for the first time since we became friends she is truly showing her age (24). I told her that there is no reason to feel jealous or neglected, but she also has to remember that we have invited her and her spouse out many times and they declined. We even invited them out to join us tonight to go out with us for a belated birthday celebration and an excuse followed shortly. Now, the mister wants me to talk to her some more…………..i looked at him straight in the eye and explained that I’m 37 , not 10 years old and have no desire to play games or beg for a friendship or try to explain to someone that she’s just needs to grow up because being jealous for no reason in just plain ridiculous.

January 19, 2011

American Idol 2011

Ok an hour into the new season and I'm loving the change!! I love Steven Tylers swagger, Jennifer classy,sweet sassy style and Randys edge

Hands down the two coolest people on earth......Kingston and Gwen