February 02, 2011

What I would say to my younger self

What would I say, if I could, to my younger self. Like if we were to meet up at the local Berry Star.Would I start off with the do’s and don’t of relationships? Hmmmm probably not….I couldn’t very well tell her that the “pull out method” doesn’t work because that would alter the future, and “don’t take life too seriously” just seems effortless. I couldn’t Dr.Phil it out…..she would see right past me.

Get involved; don’t just sit on the sidelines. Sign up for something, join a club, try a sport….like maybe tennis.
Don’t be afraid of making mistakes because you learn so much more when you take risks and push yourself. Push your boundaries, don’t rely on what you know….what is routine. 

Stay away from the drama, it’s really a waste of your time and getting in the middle of the drama just may turn out really bad for you in the long run.

Lose the negative people in your life, they aren’t good for you…..don’t try and change them because unless they want to change they won’t and they will just weigh you down with their negativity.

Don’t be so damn hard on yourself.  Yeah, you screwed up.  You’re not perfect, fine.  Learn from it.  But don’t punish yourself.  Be kind to you, even when you screw up.  You’ll bounce back eventually.  You’ll make up for it. 

Sunblock….wear it. Stay away from the Wesson Oil….and Moisturize!!

Realize your life isn’t like the movies or  a daytime soap opera. We won’t be rescued by a Hugh Jackman or Gerard Butler. The only one who is going to save you is ….you. Prince Charming is better left on the screen.
Speaking of Prince Charming, it’s ok to believe in LOVE….but not every man you meet is Prince Charming. You will kiss a lot of frogs….and jack ass’s but you will also meet some that just knock your socks off but that doesn’t mean HE’S the one.

Heart break – it’s not the end of the world. It will seem that life can’t go on without him…..but it does !!!  Grab your bestfriend, a bowl of ice cream and watch some SEX IN THE CITY episodes!!  

You can do things by yourself. You are not a loser if you go to the movies by yourself or sit in a restaurant with a book over a nice lunch. It’s liberating …… 

Don’t dye your hair black. Keep to auburn or brown…..and don’t over process your hair. Your hair is beautiful….and DON’T cut it short, it’s not a good look.

Learn how to keep track of your spending and realize no amount of shopping will give you real self-esteem.  

Keep a journal, it’s important to write what you are feeling down instead of keep them bottled in. Write about your likes, dislikes, your conversations with your parents and grandparents.

It's ok to be a klutz

Understand that this is your life, not theirs, and you’ll have no one to blame but yourself if things don’t work out the way you’d hoped.  At a certain point, you have to stop pointing fingers behind you toward your childhood. You cannot be walking around worried about what people will think of you.  At the end of the day, all that really matters is what YOU think of you.  Even if people say great things.  Horrible things.  Their opinion shouldn’t matter more than your own.